Author Archives: Kirsty McGovern

No-one’s Opinion Of You Is More Important Than Your Own

Feel like you’re being judged? Maybe you’re painfully aware of it or it’s hidden deeper down. Most of us know what it’s like to worry about how people see us. It starts in school but doesn’t end there. It’s a rare person who’s completely unconcerned by what others think unless they’ve done the work to […]

When NOT To Trust Your Feelings

“Trust Your Feelings” this is something we hear a lot and as a counsellor you might think I’d agree. And I do. But also, I don’t! I’ve worked with people long enough to know it’s not as straight forward as that. Life is a contradiction. So here I set out my way of working with […]


If someone you care about was going through something difficult, would you know how to respond? Often, its not a lack of care but a lack of knowledge. In this video I’ll show you why ‘just’ listening is so important and why we find it so hard to do. I’ll also share 3 pointers to […]

VIDEO: How To Deal With Unwanted Persuasion, Manipulation & Guilt-Tripping

You’ve probably been there – you’re chatting easily with someone when the conversation goes in a direction you’re not comfortable with. Then you hear; “But you’re so good at these things, perhaps you could just…”, or “If you don’t help me I don’t know what I’ll do” or the classic “If you loved me you’d […]

What It Takes To Change Your Limiting Beliefs

I’d just got home from work and it came on in a flash. I couldn’t breathe and my heart was beating so hard it hurt. My legs were shaking and all I wanted to do was run. But I didn’t run because I knew what it was. It had been happening for weeks. Every time […]

VIDEO: CANT STAY MOTIVATED? Try These 5 Tips To Reach Any Goal

In counselling I work with clients every day to achieve both long and short term goals. The same question always comes up; how to get motivated and how to stay motivated? We know motivation is key to changing or overcoming anything but often we think of it as something were born with or not.From what […]

VIDEO: Why Positive Thinking is as Dangerous as Negative Thinking

There’s a lot of talk about the power of positive thinking and if you’re dealing with something difficult it can be tempting to think that’s the solution. But if you’ve ever tried it, you’ll know it’s not that simple. Like negative thinking, positive thinking brings its own problems. Here, I’ll reveal an alternative I use […]