“Three Girls”: What to do when you’re triggered by abuse memories

Lots of people are talking to me about the latest BBC drama ‘Three Girls’, based on the true story of child grooming and sexual abuse in Rochdale. And its not just this show. There’s an almost constant stream of news stories, TV shows, books and films bringing our attention to something that, until recently, was […]

Do you want to be right or do you want to change?

Confession time – I didn’t write a blog this fortnight as I’m working hard on my counselling Ebook. It’s nearly done and I’ll pass on more details soon. For now, I’m really excited to share an excerpt here on something crucial in change – the battle of ‘Judgement v. Curiosity’. This isn’t just important in […]

6 steps for a better ‘conversation’ on mental health

You’ve probably seen the young Royals new charity ‘Heads Together’ and their aim to get people talking and sharing their stories to reduce the stigma of mental health. You might even have seen the BBC documentary ‘Mind over Marathon’ that follows 10 people training for the London marathon as a way to deal with their […]

5 ways to deal with disappointment

My friend’s cat, Tilly, had kittens yesterday. I was there to enjoy it all – a beautiful event. Mum and all four babies are fine and well but I couldn’t say the same for my friend. She was anxious before, during and after the birth, so I went round to see her this morning. She […]

Be happy! Is choosing your emotions a myth?

As spring gathers pace you may be noticing a whiff of optimism in the air, a brisk breeze of positivity or maybe even an up-shoot of joy. Or you could be feeling none of these things; if so, this post is for you. A lot of my clients have more than one problem. There’s the […]

It’s Easy To Put People In Boxes

You don’t see adverts like this every day;“Its easy to put people in boxes. There’s us and there’s them.” So begins Danish broadcasting network, TV2s, new advert. This short video (now viral on Youtube) shows different groups of people asked to stand in boxes taped to the floor; high earners, low earners, those we trust […]

Looking for answers? Maybe you’re asking the wrong questions

In times of uncertainty and fear we often have questions going round inside our heads. And right now is one of those times for many people politically, socially and personally. Questions are powerful. They can shift our perspective and emotions or bog us down further into hopelessness, anger and fear. The sign a question is […]

Caught up in doing? You’re probably missing something essential

Are you struggling to keep up with New Year’s resolutions? Or are you so stressed with everything you have to do, you didn’t have time to set resolutions in the first place? If so, there’s one thing that could really help you right now- This Christmas my client had a breakthrough – she gave herself […]