When there are problems in our relationships with people we care about (or really need to get on with) it can have a big affect on day-to-day life. Leaving you feeling frustrated, resentful, angry, disappointed and hurt.

If the situation doesn’t improve (despite your best efforts) these feelings can get worse; draining your energy and affecting parts your life you want to enjoy. This is due to the way we’re ‘wired’ for social contact; we don’t live in isolation and despite our achievements or success, our day-to-day happiness often comes down to who we have in our lives, how well we get on with them and how we communicate.

This same ‘wiring’ can make or break the relationships we have. We learn our patterns for relating early and often we’re not taught everything we need to know. Like how to resolve conflict or express ourselves confidently and clearly. If you’re experiencing a problem in one of your relationships (or you’ve had a series of relationship problems) it’s important to know that with a fresh perspective, new patterns can be learnt and problems resolved. Read on to find out how.

 

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“Counselling helped me recognise my own role in relationships (and their dynamics) and has helped me improve these for the better. Thanks Kirsty!”
Female client, South Wales

How can individual counselling help with relationship problems?

All of our relationships start with us. That doesn’t mean the other person has no responsibility but it does mean we have choices in how we act and the situation’s we find ourselves in. If you’re ready to take a new approach (which can improve all your relationships) counselling could be right for you.

Counselling gives you space to ‘let off steam’ around difficult emotions and look at what’s going on for you. I can help you get clear on your relationship patterns and where they might be coming from. As well as checking to see if they’re linked with other concerns such as anxiety, low mood or self-confidence. Together we’ll look at new strategies and changes you’d like to make.

We have choices in all situations but it can be difficult to see that when we’re experiencing strong negative thoughts and emotions. Counselling can be an empowering process that gives you clarity and puts you back in control.

How We’ll Work

In our session’s we’ll work in these four ways;

1) Expressing.
We’ll talk through what you’re experiencing – giving lots of space to all those thoughts and feelings it may be difficult to express elsewhere.

2) Exploring.
We’ll look at your relationships past and present to find patterns and links. This can be powerful as we often don’t see how seemingly unrelated things are actually connected.

3) Finding New Ways Forward.
Using the knowledge you’ve gained we’ll look at new approaches, building skills and strengths in line with how you’d like you’re relationships to look, and what feels authentic for you.

4) Action and Support.
Trying out new approaches can be daunting but we’ll be building on everything you’ve learnt through our sessions and you can count on my support to review the outcomes and (hopefully!) celebrate your successes.

 

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